Happiness

Happiness/Anand/Sukh/Khushi? According to wikipedia definition “Happiness is a state of mind or feeling such as contentment, satisfaction, pleasure”.

Happiness varies from person to person, for some it may be through acquiring more wealth; for others it may be through having good friendship. Happiness can be materialistic even it can be spiritual. A person’s happiness varies from time to time, minute to minute, it all depends upon the fulfillment of his/her desire at that point in time; and the choice one makes.

Before proceeding further on my thoughts about Happiness what it means to me, I would like to refer the speech of A.R.Rehman while he received his first Oscar award.

“All my life I had a choice between love & hate; I chose love so I am here”
A.R. Rehman

I believe no matters what life brings for us, we always have the choice. So better I accept it gracefully and be Happy, or else there is nothing other than sadness and sorrows. There is no point to be worried either about the past which has already gone or about the future which we have not seen. What we have is the present and there are lots and lots of little things in front of us which can make us happy.

Life is more of a reflection of what we are; it will always give back what we have given to it. So I shall better choose to be happy and spread happiness all around so that I will get the same in return. Happiness is very contagious, if I am happy then only I can spread it to my family, friends, neighbors, and my colleagues.

I believe getting happiness is the ultimate aim of human life and we can get it only through being honest to ourselves, and doing what we like to do because we all know life is unpredictable and uncertain so why should I spoil this time being unhappy.

So let’s make this life little simple and easier and try to realize the happiness around us and make this planet earth a better place to live in by spreading the happiness.

Be Happy.

Ashish.

N:B: Image courtesy "Google Images".

Lesson from Cheese.

I read a book called Who Moved My Cheese-An amazing way to deal with change in your work and life, by Dr. Spencer Johnson. After reading this book I have gathered few thoughts which I am just trying put it over here.

Dr.Spencer has explained each fact in a very nice way with the use of simple language, so that one person can relate himself with the given example instantly. It describes how we run for success and once we get it then we do not put much effort to sustain that. So later on when we loose the same comfortable plot, we also loose our confidence to start from the scratch because we fear for failure.

The book explains how we become comfortable with our day to day life and do not notice the small changes which are happening around, but those small changes eventually lead us to a different situation in a period of time. We scream, we shout due to these unexpected changes, but the fact is that, the change did not happen overnight, it happened gradually.

It explains that there are people who notice the small changes in their lives and always prepared for the situation by putting constant effort rather than being arrogant towards the change. There is another set of people who accept the change and gather their confidence and then try to move on by their small but sincere effort. But there are certain set of people who always take themselves so seriously, that’s the reason they become arrogant towards the change rather than accepting it.

They always think why this happen to them, how it could happen to them and so on…. . These sort of thoughts never help anyone rather you start loosing your confidence.

We all know change is inevitable, so it’s always better to notice the small changes in our lives and accept it. Change happens for something good; it helps us to always being hands on in our life to tackle any critical situation. It keeps us alive and active mentally and physically. Change always acts as a catalyst to achieve something new and better.

Let me give a small example, when parents put their kids in school for the first time, the child does not like to go because s/he does not want this change in his/her life but later on when s/he stared making friends, then the likeness to school and friends stared increasing and then the parents don’t push them to go to school.

Be it a child or an adult we all feel very comfortable with our lives the way its running and do not want any changes in that, if any changes happens we start protesting it. But by protesting we can not stop the changes happening around us in each second, so it’s always better to notice the small changes, accept it gracefully and prepare for the future.

Moral of the book is, do not take yourself so seriously and enjoy the life by simply accepting the change.

With Regards,

Ashish

Random thoughts; over politics.

The final phase of voting is getting over and so is the campaigning of our politicians. These guys have been literally busy campaigning in multiple locations in a single day, wooing voters through there influential speech and commitment for the future. There are 8070 candidates contesting in different constituencies across the nation and they have their own way of reaching out to the voters to convince them.

So I am trying to discuss about the most sought after manifesto of top two parties of this general election 2009.

A: I’ll revive the economy within 100 days. –Dr.Manmohan Singh

The person who made this statement, ofcourse he knows his strength and so if he comes back to power then he will take care this issue. But my question why not now? Why there is an if clause?
We know his caliber, he can do this but why he has not done it till now?

He is one of the most respected & intelligent politician of this country then can’t he help this country to come out of this economic slump. Is politics only mean to serve your party not the nation?

We all respect him & trust him so he should help this country without putting this sort of conditions. Hope he will realize.

B: We will bring back black money from stashed abroad. -BJP

This is another highlighted agenda of a most powerful party of this country which was earlier led by one of the most dynamic leader of this era. We have seen success and failure hand in hand during their tenure. We can pride for Pokharan & Kargil but we are also disheartened by issues like Kandhara

My question to them is why they did not try this earlier to bring that black money from the foreign banks? Why they are making it a clause that if the voters will help them to win this time then only they will do this?

When they will realize?

There are many agendas, many manifestoes but all just to attract the voters. Election over so is the commitment.

Experiences awesome & horrific!!!! (A trip to Bandipur)

It was end of Jan this year when one of my friend came from Dubai. It was a nice feeling to meet a friend after long time. He had already spent his vacation at his home and visiting various relatives’ places so he had only few days left to spend some time with us. So all we met at one of our friends place then he quickly offered to sponsor a party along with a trip. As it was a free party all of us adjusted our schedules to get ready for this, and planned it for the very next Saturday to Bandipur National Park. Only two days was left for this but still we all managed it well, hired a Toyota Qualis, book the resort out there through one common friend. Few of our friends from Bangalore one came from Chennai and all of us started our journey on Saturday noon.

All were very happy meeting each other and a trip after a very long time. As soon as we crossed the Bangalore territory our pilot (Cab driver) parked the cab near a restaurant/dhaba (Still confused what was that) for lunch. None of us were really hungry, but as he has already parked it so we all went inside and after 15 minutes of brainstorming we ordered few items. We quickly finished our lunch as it was pathetic and jumped inside the cab. As we just moved from this restaurant after a few kilometers we were stuck in a traffic signal and the mean time one big truck touched the cab’s back light, it was just a little touch (Jore ka jhatka dhire se laga). Nothing actually happened either to us or to the cab but our Mr driver started shouting at the truck driver on the middle of the road and demanded some amount to get a new light. Ohh let me tell you it was a big drama which went on there for fifteen to twenty minutes.

Somehow they themselves settled it and we moved from that place. Now the most interesting part of our journey started. I think after this heavy word war with that truck driver this fellow (our cab driver) was literally angry so he started showing through his driving skills (err……………It really kills ….). We all have experiences of traveling very long distance places through cabs but I am sure this was most horrific experience all we gained. I think this driver was forgotten that he
Was driving a qualis on Bangalore-Mysore expressway not a Ferrari on F1 track. The way he was overtaking each vehicles we all thought this is gonna be our last day. Anyway somehow we managed ourselves and reached near Bandipur with very less stops this time other than just to get some cold drinks and snacks for the evening party.

By the time we reached near Deer valley resort, Sun was approaching towards west so climate was getting little dark, colder and windy. Got a nice warm welcome from the resort folks followed with some hot masala tea and onion pakodas. Didn’t waste much time started taking few snaps nearby and mean time these folks arranged an open place and fire for the party. Within few minutes party started with three cheers to the sponsor and to all of us and to our friendship. Party went on for a very long time; no one was turning up for the dinner even after several reminders as we have already belted some heavy snacks in the evening. Some were drowsy, some lazy, and few were still busy in their pointless conversation. It was late mid night we planned to go on a walk, even though the resort was inside the jungle but after having few shots of black label everyone was courageous enough to pursue this plan and this was just to see that the blinking light on a distance was a wolf’s eye or actually a light. Anyway we went on a walk for few meters and came back but the discussion went on till next day morning.
Day2 started very early in morning around 5 ‘o’ clock with a plan to go for safari but we aborted the plan later on as we did not get the govt.permission. So went for trekking after a heavy breakfast with local guide. Spent some time inside the jungle, came back had lunch and again gathered some courage to sit inside the cab but this time he was looking much more relaxed and it reflected in his driving also.

So at last we reached our place safely without much experience of roller coaster ride at least on our way back. Awesome experience of the place, wonderful time with friends.

With Love,
Ashu

No rules for the rule makers???

Since the date election has been announced, all the television channels, news papers are filled with lots of news and ads by different parties and their campaigners, mobile inboxes are filled with SMS ads, TV & radio channels are tuning different party anthem. Now every party has jumped into the battle filed of election 2009.

But here I have few things to discuss. As we know that almost every social activities has always been moderated either by a board or by the government himself. Be it sports, cinema or any other activities. Board (For an example cricket board, censor board etc.) set the parameters for everything we do, specially in cinema they have so many obligations what a filmmaker should or should not show on screen. Let’s not comment here because like others this issue also has its both positive and negatives sides. Possibly we can discuss it some other time

When we take an example of any small or large organization or institution most of them has couple of things in common, like a CODE OF CONDUCT and AGE TO RETIRE. But its seems not mandatory for those aspirants who are pursuing their political career in India.

I know EC (Election Commission) has already published a code of conduct for the politicians before the election but how many of them really follow this? We have seen in the recent past that so many ace politicians have caught on cameras bribing the voters, speaking with no sense of responsibility in the public rallies. They speak less about the development of the country and their agendas but more about the loop holes of opposition. They spend more time on fighting with each other rather than focusing on the other important issues of this nation which need to be addressed. They use nasty tricks to get votes from the innocent people be it through money, power, or by the name of religion and God.

Why there is no strong action against these people who does not know how to behave and what not to speak in the public. If there can be a life time ban against a sports person, why it can’t be against a politician? We choose a person among ourselves to help us in managing this country and its resources but they try to rule us. We call these people as our leaders but they mislead us.

It’s like no rules for the rule makers.

With Love,

Ashu.

Too much of reality; what’s your say?

There used to be an era in Indian Television where hardly we had seen any program airing episode by episode serially, but certainly after few years the crowd from the streets vanished for an hour every week to see some all time classic TV serials like Ramayana & Mahabharat. That was the time when Television set was considered to be a luxury item in Indian middle class society. Whether it’s a town or a village a TV set was always surrounded by a houseful crowd to watch those serials.

That was an era of mythological & fantasy serials like Alif Laila, Vikram Betal, Ali baba chalish chore, Chanakya, Malgudi days to name a few. This era ended during end of 90s which was beginning of another new era of daily soaps in Indian Television. The industry became more polished and organized by that time. The characters in those family dramas were more stylish more modernized and ageless. Full of twist and turns in each episode and full excitement for the audiences mainly for the house wives

After the era of daily soaps then Indian television industry jumped into a different modern era of reality shows which started with some Music competition shows like Meri Awaz Suno, Sare Ga Ma Pa etc. All these audiences were excited to see all these new sensation, new style of operating the shows.

But I think now it’s more of an ultra or super modern era because now every channel has number of reality shows running everyday. Now it does not just show the reality of the competition but they claim that, they show the real emotional outburst of each individual involved in these shows. They do not just show case their talents but they get into their personal lives to add more spice to the show and as an audience we also enjoy it. Isn’t it?

But I think it’s too much of reality now. People have forgotten the difference between personal and public life, now what they just want is more and more publicity. They don’t feel shy to showcase their private life; neither have they felt bad to abuse someone on national television. Some people have now taken a step further, they don’t mind to showcase their private affairs like marriage & death. They made it a public affair or more of another reality show to showcase these sensitive occasions of personal life.

Is this all real? If it’s real then is it healthy for them or for their society? Why they make so much of public affair of their own private lives?

I am neither writing this for sake of it nor judging anyone on the basis of morality. Actually I am little confused and want to understand the idea behind all these from all of you.

Waiting for all your answers.

With Love,
Ashu.

Why can’t life be smooth?

Well again I am here to discuss something and probably with not so new topic this time.

We all know about it, we all did it; we are still doing it i.e. nothing but competition.

Life has become more of a competition isn’ it?
We all want to have everything which will keep us in the frontline forever in every area.
We have the latest gadgets, the finest car, the best job, highest salary the most luxurious house
in the town but still we are not able to be happy because somebody else has the same thing. Its competition so it is bound that we need to be always one step ahead of everyone.

This is not a case of any particular age group, society or country, it is same for all. Everyone wants every best thing in life and anything less than that not acceptable.

Actually speaking there is nothing wrong in competing with each other to score more marks in study, to have a better life style in the society but as long as its a healthy competition its fine, but if we just wake up every morning with a mindset that we have to compete with each other then don’t you think we will miss all the fun, all the sweetness of life. Why can’t life be smooth and steady?

Why we take ourselves so seriously? I think we can be happy with the best thing that we have rather than being worried and unhappy because somebody else has the same or more.
Why should we do just because others do the same? Why can’t we be different? Why can’t we do things which will make us happy, I think a person who is happy will do a job better than the others.

There is very famous phrase which I believe would be a right fit for this context i.e.

“Life is a journey not a destination”

I think this quote says it all; that we neither should regret upon our past which can’t be changed nor we should worry about future which is uncertain so we better enjoy our life that is this very moment.

We all are born for this journey, we may have to take a different path to reach our destination but we are meant to learn new things in our journey to enjoy it to the most.